Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Tracking for October 21

  • sleep: 8.25 hrs, fiftful
  • body movement: 30 min exerbike
  • contemplation: morning pages; dharma reading; 10 min meditation
  • play:  process time
  • currently reading:   Green Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Tracking for October 20

  • sleep: 7 hrs, solid
  • body movement: n/a (busy day)
  • contemplation: morning pages
  • play:  process time; went out on a date
  • currently reading:   Green Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way

Monday, October 20, 2014

Tracking for October 19

  • sleep: 8.5 hrs. restless
  • body movement: n/a (migraine)
  • contemplation: morning pages; 10 min meditation
  • play:  reading; watching video
  • currently reading:   Green Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Tracking for October 18

  • sleep: 7.5 hrs, fitful
  • body movement: n/a 
  • contemplation: morning pages
  • play:  reading; watching video
  • currently reading:   Red Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Tracking for October 17

  • sleep: 8.75 hrs. solid
  • body movement: n/a (starting again over the weekend)
  • contemplation: morning pages; dharma reading
  • play:  dinner with friends
  • currently reading:   Red Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way

Friday, October 17, 2014

Knowing the name of the portal

I finally figured out which portal I walked through recently.

I'm starting to move on.

It feels profoundly wrong to be doing this so soon after Jay's death. I apologize every day to the pictures of him on my dresser. Even though I know it's what he would have wanted for me, I feel guilty.

But the process has begun. I set my relationship status to single on OKCupid (and then went on a fantastic first date). I haven't quite yet felt the need to change my relationship status on Facebook, but then all my friends there know me and know what I'm going through, and the truth is I am still in a complicated relationship with Jay.

As I said to a friend at lunch yesterday, in my heart of hearts, I'm still waiting for Jay to come back. But knowing how my life works, as long as I'm waiting for him to come back, he won't - but the moment I stop waiting, he will.

I know that sounds crazy, but that's how my bargaining/denial/disbelief is expressing itself these days.

All the usual disclaimers apply, especially the one that watches for the changing of the month.

But I've taken that first big step into the rest of my life.

Tracking for October 16

  • sleep: 8.5 hrs, fitful
  • body movement: n/a (starting again over the weekend)
  • contemplation: morning pages; dharma reading
  • play:  lunch with a friend
  • currently reading:   Red Mars (re-read); Second Firsts; When Things Fall Apart; Around the Writer’s Block; The Artist’s Way